Whenever people say hurtful things to us, our tendancy is to want to defend ourselves and pay them back. We may be tempted to react out of our feelings rather than respond in love. Scripture instructs us about what to do in these situations.
Overcome Evil With Good
"Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good (Romans 12:21)." If we respond to evil with evil, we worsen the problem. If we are going to overcome evil, we must respond in love. This requires action on our part. Evil is not overcome by silence. We must overcome evil by blessing the very people who are mistreating us. "Bless those who pursecute you; bless and do not curse." Romans 12:24
Act In Love
"Let all that you do be done in love (1 Corinthians 16:14)." We are never permitted by Scripture to act out of our feelings. We must act in love. First Corinthians chapter thirteen is a good Biblical deffinition of love. Love is essential to honoring Christ because love is the fulfillment of the law.
Do Not Retaliate
"Never pay back evil for evil to anyone... (Romans 12:17a)." The world's idea of justice is retaliation. However, retaliating is not the same thing as seeking justice. "Never take your own revenge, beloved, but leave room for the wrath of God, for it is written,'VENGEANCE IS MINE, I WILL REPAY,' says the Lord (Romans 12:19)."
Seek to Reconcile
We should, "[Be] diligent to preserve the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace." Ephesians 4:3 When others speak unkind things to us, we must examine what they are saying, and if we have done anything wrong we should repent and ask for forgiveness. Whatever the problem is, we should seek to restore our relationship with the person.
Love wants to reconcile.
Pride retaliates.
May we be overcomers!
